Many people are living their lives with no clue as to what they want. If you are one of those people, don’t worry you’re not alone. Millions are wandering through life with no clear direction or sense of where they want to go. If you are tired of merely reacting to your circumstances and are ready to start truly living, here are six tips for finding out exactly what you want from your life.

Be Selfish

If you are continually sacrificing your time and dreams for others, you will never be able to figure out what you want. You have to put yourself first. To begin the process of finding out what you want, ask yourself what you would be doing right now if you weren’t tied down to your friends, family, job, and everything else. 

Regret Nothing

You should never feel sorry for being selfish. It’s time for you to start living exactly how you want to live. You will never be able to move forward with your life if you continue to hold on to regret for things you did or didn’t do in the past. Live in the present.

Determine What You Need

Sit down and figure out what you need most to live a happy and fulfilling life. Make a list of your priorities. You can also start to think about what kind of legacy you want to leave behind.

Figure Out What Really Bothers You

The only way you will be able to soar is by pushing back against those things that you don’t want. Take some time to figure out what upsets you and why. Be specific with your reasons.

Figure Out What Makes You Happy

When you’re happy with the life you’re living; it can’t be wasted. Your happiness is the root of your desire. Take some time to think about what truly makes you happy. When you pinpoint the one thing that truly makes you happy, you’ll have a clear idea of what you should aim for in life.

Tell Others

Keeping your goals and desires to yourself will only lead to your failure. Share what you are trying to accomplish with those around you and watch as they offer their unconditional support.

You will inevitably hit snags along your journey to reaching your goals, making it difficult to stay motivated and focused. It is important to stay positive and know that with determination and hard work you will achieve your goals.

Put It All Together

Once you have completed the exercises listed above, it will be easier to identify what you really want in life. Spend some time examining your lists and decide what adds sparkle to your life and what to leave behind. Use this information to move in forward the direction or your best next life.

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